Are the young leading the way in Everyday Sexism?

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I’m on my sexism high horse this month. I’ve been ranting about sexism for as long as I can remember and I would love to believe that things are different now, that girls do have higher expectations, more respect, more prospects and more opportunities than our grandparents, parents and my generation.  For the most part of course they do, but it’s clear that sexism is still ingrained in the day to day lives of girls and women.  This is the issue I feel most sad about – I can accept that we have a long way to go before we have true equality in jobs, politics, sports etc., but surely the everyday battering that women put up with must be getting less?

A young female member of my family was telling me about a graduate assessment day she attended recently for a job with a large company. As part of the day applicants had to role play and choose different company positions.  She was the only female in her group and it was suggested that she took on the role of MD because ‘we need some tits at the top.’  Now I’m not surprised that such sexism exists, but I was so sad and shocked to think that these were educated male graduates in their 20’s – this is 2015 not 1970.

To make the picture more depressing the fantastic book by Laura Bates – Everyday Sexism – is an inspired project that began with its roots in talking about everyday sexism, highlighting the silence and acceptance that surrounds this and refusing to allow it remain part of the mainstream of female lives.  Reading this illustrates that we still have such a very long way to go. You don’t have to read the book, check out @everydaysexism on Twitter to see endless ongoing examples.  I was astounded by the hundreds of examples from young women including girls at school and university.  What are we teaching the boys that allows this to be such a fundamental part of the world we live in today?

As an experiment I have carried a notebook with me for 2 weeks, with the intention to note down all instances of everyday sexism that happened directly to me.  The result surprised me – there were none.  Perhaps I didn’t get out enough or maybe being older means that I get more respect or have become less of an object? Or of course I may have entered the realm of the middle aged invisible woman but that’s a rant for another time.

But this did make me think is everyday sexism a younger generation problem? Is the airbrushed perfection of females we see in the media making young women objects in a way that didn’t happen when I was younger?  What is our generation teaching the younger generation about sexism, equality and what this means in everyday behaviour?

Melissa Benn in her book ‘What should we tell our daughters’ addresses this theme of ‘casual sexism’ and  her book is a guide to parents and their daughters in facing the challenges of being female today.  Should there be a book to tell our sons how to behave too?

What can we do on an individual level to stop this tide of everyday sexism?  I wish I knew, but we can keep talking about it, keep showing the younger generations that the everyday stuff is the basis of everything to come, that sexism isn’t just about women getting to be board directors or getting equal pay. It’s about respect everyday – at home, at school, at leisure and about us as parents, aunts, uncles, grandparents and friends watching out for those interactions, words and behaviours that signify everyday sexism in the young and instead of letting it pass, make the point, explain why it’s wrong and help in a tiny way to make it stop.

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